Riding the Bus

July 11, 2011 by admncc

My one buddy calls it “riding the bus.”  My other buddy calls it “same-siders.”  I’ve been known to say that it’s just plain weird.  But I’ll be curious to see what you think.  So take a moment to picture this story for me.

My family and I are in a restaurant over the weekend.  We see a young couple come in and add their name to the waiting list.  They were holding hands when they walked in the door, they were holding hands when they talked to the hostess and they continued to hold hands while they stood there.  As the man’s name was called, they walked to the table and proceeded to sit on the same side of the booth together.  Then, he sat with his arm around her for the entire meal.  And when they weren’t physically using their forks to eat, they were holding hands under the table.

So you know me, I went over and took a picture of them.  It isn’t the best picture, but it at least gives you an idea of what I’m talking about.  Now, I don’t know why, but whenever I’ve seen this behavior in the past, I’ve never understood it.  Part of it seems like a silly PDA thing – I mean, is it really necessary to hold hands while you eat?  And part of it seems like some sort of goofy controlling-relationship thing?  Or, as my wife put it, they were “just horny.”  And maybe that’s true too.

You might ask who I am to question this couple’s relationship.  And I would agree with you.  But judging by a few people I spoke to and some of the comments on Twitter when I posted the picture, I’m not in the minority with my opinion.  It’s funny; I remember making fun of a couple back in college who acted this way.  Even at that age, I thought it was silly for them to be “riding the bus.”  So you tell me.  Are they cute and “lovey dovey” or is it just plain weird?


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  1. wendy says:

    I love my husband and all, but I need my space. Especially when I eat! So I say WEIRD.

  2. I don’t think there’s anything weird about it, pretty sweet, so I say lovely dovey but usually sitting across from your significant other makes for better conversation, eye contact, and comfortable dining.

  3. Angelica says:

    Steven and I do NOT do that in public. I don’t really care either way if someone else does it though. Different strokes for different folks. In case you didn’t see my reply on my site, I did say thanks for stopping by and saying hi the other day! I think it drives other people crazy when they know customers get along with me so well 🙂 Steven said it probably gets under their skin when I get comment cards. Muahahah! Have a good one, dearest!

  4. Liz says:

    Even if I’m on a date, I need my space. Wendy is right!

  5. grannynanny says:

    Your wife is right…LOL!But I agree with Wendy……give me some space!!!!!!

  6. Come on, I think you look like a dork when you do that (but I think that about a lot of stuff).

  7. Jen says:

    I can’t stand sitting on the same side! I openly laugh at people I see doing that and “riding the bus” is the best term for this I’ve heard!

    Occasionally, if there is a lull between courses I’ll do a small hand hold (fingertips) across the table, but it lasts for about 20 seconds and it’s mostly to make sure he’s listening to me if I’m trying to say something!

    I’ve always been staunchly opposed to walking anyplace with your arms around each other! Do you remember when high schoolers used to do that with their hands in each other’s back pockets? Weird. Too hard to walk, not comfortable, I can go on and on!

  8. I think the constant hanging on is an odd behavior for adults that should be comfortable in a relationship. I see it as a bit controlling or a reaction to insecurity. Then again, maybe they are in a new relationship and just can’t get enough of each other. 🙂

  9. Carl says:

    I use to think people who did that were “weirdos”

    My girlfriend prefers Riding The Bus style dining….I didn’t at first, then she started giving me little kisses on the cheek and whispering in my ear throughout dinner.

    My opinion on the matter has changed greatly.

  10. IRE: “maybe they are in a new relationship and just can’t get enough of each other”

    I’m reminded of the movie “Date Night” Steve Carell and Tina Fey’s character are dining and see a couple seated beside each other & try to determine whether they are newlyweds or newly dating.

  11. Kittycat says:

    My opinion
    more than likely they were
    1) cheating- cheaters don’t have much time alone so they will push the limits wherever.

    2) newly dating

    I personally do don’t display this type of behavior
    in public
    the sportsman just wouldn’t do it.

  12. Sugar says:

    It’s a bit weird. I need my space at the table.

  13. this has always kinda creeped me out.

    i mean, really?

    i’m not a PDA kinda girl though.

    but i think it’s cute only if the peeps are over 80

  14. Marissa says:

    Haha – I’m a side-sitter! It’s more fun especially when you’re at a restaurant where there’s stuff to see, therefore, you’re looking at the same thing simultaneously without having to look over your shoulder to see what the other person is looking at. That way, you don’t miss out when something funny happens or other notable incidents.

  15. elle marie says:

    I think it’s adorable, let’s say if they are in their Tweens, newly dating, but for adults to do that, it’s kind of controlling, like a co-dependant relationship, I’d love to see them after the’ve been married for as long as I have 12 years… I’m lucky if we play “footsie” underneath the table, I need my space.

  16. Meeme says:

    …it’s definitely not necessary to hold hands while eating, nor normal, nor could it be easy…

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