Boys and Girls

January 14, 2011 by admncc

Well…I took a page from my friend’s book.  I decided to shamelessly copy Jennifer Juniper’s “Feedback Friday” idea because the below-topic was too good to pass up!  So, welcome to this one-time special (and borrowed) edition of “Feedback Friday” courtesy of The Constant Complainer.

According to this Associated Press article, Ohio University “plans to test allowing men and women to live together in the same dorm rooms.”  Apparently, they university made this decision after pressure from the school’s “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Center.”

I’ll let you read the story link for more details.  But first…my absolute favorite quote from the story was from Student Senate member Sean Martin.  Martin said “students in dating relationships who try to live together under the new housing option will be “frowned upon.””  LOL.  Frowned upon!  Wow, what a horrific punishment.

The school believes that they are doing a good thing to help “benefit students who identify as transgender.”  But I think it’s going to be a nightmare if they haven’t specified more detailed rules regarding who can do this and who can’t.  Simply “frowning upon” two college lovers isn’t going to stop them from trying to room together.  Yes, I understand there’s a certain parental factor that SHOULD kick in.  But stranger things have happened.

So…are you opposed to gender-neutral housing?  And would you have done it with your friends of the opposite sex while in college?  Oh, and would you have tried to do with with your college sweetheart?

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  1. Hal says:

    It’s about time you got a new post up! Anyway, I’m conservative about stuff like this and see this experiment as nothing more than a bad idea! More promiscuity, more unplanned pregnancies, more harassment of those who do identify themselves as transgender. Do you need me to go on? How many college lovebirds will try to scam their parents so that they can live with their sweetheart? It will happen! I assure you of that. And kids that age aren’t ready to live together. So good luck to the school’s housing department when they’re flooded with roomate change forms.

  2. dani says:

    Hmmmm…living together on Mommy an Daddy’s money…Love it! (sarcasm) They should have boys rooms, girls rooms, and unidentifiable sex rooms (transgender, whatever)….you know what…? Remind me not to send my kid to a university that offers unidentifiable sex rooms…

  3. NeoConDon says:

    It should be up to whomever is paying the tab. If one of my sons after turning 18 told me they wanted to live with their girlfriend, I’d let them know that I disapproved, but if they were going to pay for it, there’s not much I can do. It wouldn’t happen under my roof, but they can do it under theirs.

    I don’t understand this whole transgender thing…must me a new fad in college.

  4. I am quite liberal on most matters as you know, but this isn’t one of them. I understand the concept however, I think this would be causing a whole lot more problems than it would be fixing. I don’t mean to be crude, but let’s be honest, most men can’t keep it in their pants on a regular day to day basis as it is (and let’s not forget all the willing whores) and they want to throw women in their college rooms and expect everything to be a-okay? That’s stupid and delusional. We should be teaching acceptance, but instead we’re coming up with great ideas as to how we can raise the population and climb further down in to the basement of debt. Where can I send the flowers and cupcakes to note my appreciation?

  5. zig says:

    I didn’t have to many “Girlfriends” whom I “dated” in college. But if this were the policy at my college, I would have been hooking-up/sleeping/”dating” every woman I could get in my bed. I am not saying that it is a bad idea. I am only saying that it opens the door to a lot more sexual encounters and unplanned pregnancies. I thought that college was suppose to educate young men and women about the dangers of life (including dangers of unprotected, unplanned and unwanted sexual consequences). Instead of opening the pandora’s box of male fantasy, why not just teach the student body that trans-gender people are people first, with “nontraditional” passions second. Then, they wouldn’t need a special “nontraditional” dormatory. I am all for more sex on college campuses, but not at the expense of missing this teachable moment! I totally support the trans-gender community and propose acceptance for all by all!

    NCD, what is going to happen when one of your sons comes to you and tells you he thinks he is actually a woman trapped in a man’s body? Would you disown him? Would you stop paying for his college? Or, will you tell him he is wrong about his passions, dreams and wants?

  6. Jen says:

    I am fairly liberal on social issues but not this one. I’m sorry but at 18 years old, a person is not yet an adult emotionally. I know a lot of 35 year olds that aren’t emotionally adults who couldn’t handle this type of situation. This is going too far.
    Oh, and sorry I haven’t stopped by in a while.

  7. I think it’s a great idea. I have always struggled living with female roommates. They are difficult and catty. My favorite roommate ever was my off-campus male roommate Pat. Pat was not a college sweetheart. He was actually my boyfriends brother. It was completely harmless and a perfect cohabitation! 🙂

  8. kittycat says:

    I just dont know. i know how i was at that age. so i guess im gonna say NO i would not want my tattoo girl to be living with the opposite sex .

  9. NeoConDon says:

    “I thought that college was suppose to educate young men and women about the dangers of life (including dangers of unprotected, unplanned and unwanted sexual consequences).”

    —Zig, I’ll give you a million dollars if you can find a single college in the United State who have that as their mission…

  10. Lacey says:

    Hey, hey, heyyyy! Did you notice I am officially following you on twitter now, per your request? Your very welcome, my friend. haha. I am the worst tweeter(i still find saying that funny) ever, so don’t expect much from me. I will try to get better though!

    I’m not sure how I feel about this co-ed housing thing. I don’t think it’s something I would want my kid(ahem, future kids) doing. It’s perfectly fine to have a floor of girls and a floor of boys and so on and so forth and then having co-ed common areas for dorms, but it could just get too messy.

  11. Lacey says:

    Ugh, it’s bugging me big time that I said “your” instead of “you’re” up there. Forgive me! I’d like to blame that stupidity on the cold medicine that I am guzzling like it’s sweet tea…

  12. Jen says:

    I lived in the only coed dorm when I was in school and I liked it, but living coed in a room is just too much! Like Dani said – it’s usually on mom and dad’s dime! Naw, I can’t go for it 🙁

  13. Marissa says:

    I guess gays and lesbians would feel more comfortable rooming with people who deal with their same issues. It’s the trannys that probably have the hardest time fitting in. Some trannys are attracted to the opposite sex.

    I’d just want any roommate who’s good in math and science so I can bug her, him, or shim to help me out in my classes.

  14. “Gender neutral” housing sounds a lot like the official mascot of Greendale Community College in NBC’s Community — a faceless humanoid devoid of any recognizable sex, gender, race, or ethnic affiliation of any kind.

  15. Ron says:

    To me, this sounds like so many different issues rolled into one, so I will respond as a gay male.

    I actually lived with my partner in a dorm room while we were in school for the first year, and it went great.

    Secondly, if we had not been together, I would have enjoyed rooming with a female. I’ve had female roomates in the past and loved it.

    I think this would depend on the students and how mature they were handling living together, whether it be male/female, male/male, or female/female.

    Great post topic, CC!

  16. What a horrible idea. I would flip if D comes home one day and tells me “Hey I wanna go to college and room with my boyfriend.” It’d be a big fat NO. I was 18 before. I know what I wanted to do at 18. I was actually thinking of moving in with my boyfriend at the time but my better judgement kicked in.

    That is a horrible horrible idea. I just can’t get over it.

    It’s hilarious just imagining after every break up how many room change forms will be submitted.

  17. Alexandra says:

    Gawd! This is so typically American. The “God forbid we should offend anybody” is so embedded in the collective culture that idiotic decisions are made. Like this one for instance. Of course, we shouldn’t offend trans-sexuals or gay people, far be it from me, sexual preference should not be a base for discrimination, but they should come up with another option. I’m sure other options exist.
    On the other side, college kids are having sex no matter whether they share the same room or not, the decision is making it only a little bit easier.

  18. Angelica says:

    I think that the idea of it could be a good thing, however kids are stupid. They’re going to take advantage and use it as a free pass for shenanigans! It just is a shame that these people have so much on their plate as is, but now they want to jump RIGHT INTO adulthood (even though they are adults, but in my opinion they’re still kids). Also, what would happen if these couples broke up? Would they be allowed to move out just because? Or will they be forced to honor the commitment? I think it’s just a bad idea.

  19. Interesting. I don’t think I’d let my kids room with kids of the opposite sex. That just seems like it is asking for trouble.

  20. Tallelf says:

    Hrm.. co-ed dorms sure. Co-ed rooms not so much. I would hate to be the RA there. There are a lot of concerns that come up in dorm life, and as a former RA, a lot of my floor mates came to me with issues, concerns, and flat out flabbergasting moments that I had to deal with. I wouldn’t even know where to begin if I had to add this into the mix.

    Off campus housing where the school is not on the line. Sure. A lawsuit from this and the damn state tuition bills will go up for sure.

  21. Sammy K. says:

    Like most of these other people, I can understand co-ed dorms. I think co-ed rooms might be pushing it. Yes, college students have the opportunity to live in an apartment with their male and female friends, but that’s an apartment. I think you’ve gotta stick with co-ed dorms on this one, cause co-ed rooms could just get nasty in more than one way.

  22. Amanda says:

    Thanks for visiting my blog – I heard about this story on the news here in Columbus and I was surprised. I don’t think I would want to live with a guy in college, my female roommate was probably much work. I would have preferred to live alone.

  23. Tristan says:

    Stop the penetration between consenting adults!

    The culture of higher education is already an utter failure. Daddy’s little girl might as well get a good rogering on his dime. He’s already going into debt so she can get drunk and learn how not to think for herself.

    Here’s an idea for concerned parents: Sneak into your child’s dorm when they aren’t expecting you. Do whatever you can to prevent them from growing up, it’s worked so far.

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