The Party Life
January 7, 2010 by admncc
I know it’s rare for me to publish more than one post in an evening, but it does happen on occasion. So don’t forget to read one post down and vote on this week’s “Moron of the Week Award” nominations.
Anyway, I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and she inspired this post. She is 42 years old and recently divorced. And she was joking about how impossible dating seems after years of marriage and now having three children. I asked her to elaborate and told her that I felt a blog coming on…
She said that one of the most interesting things about being divorced is all of the advice she is receiving from her friends. But their advice is causing her to think twice. One friend told her to create an online profile on Cougar Life – a web site which identifies itself as “the premier online dating service that pairs women in their prime with younger men and ends the double standard.” Another friend told her to “date as many men as possible.” Yet another friend told her that she cannot fall for the first guy she meets. And others have given her advice on everything from where to go to meet men, who she should be dating and what she should be doing with them. LOL. Wow!
But her feeling is that she is a responsible mother who has children. And children may get attached to someone she dates, so she purposely wants to be careful and selective with her relationships. But everywhere she turns, her friends are telling her that she basically needs to go wild. I don’t understand that. It reminds me of my buddy whose wife told him that she regretted not sleeping around more in college. He was like, “Thanks for the information, but you’re married with kids now.” And he’s right. What can he do about her regrets now?
I can’t imagine dating at my age, so I certainly understand her predicament. And I totally agree with her rationale to be conscious with her dating decisions. My only advice – don’t date anyone you meet in a bar. I have never believed that meeting anyone while intoxicated will result in a meaningful relationship. That’s just my opinion because the bar scene, drunken behavior, binge-drinking and stupid sexcapades drive me crazy – always have.
So should my friend ignore her instincts and just date anyone who has a breath in their body or is her gut leading her in the right direction? She will be anxiously awaiting your responses.