HOF Me – Guest Post
May 28, 2009 by admncc
Here at The Constant Complainer, in addition to my own posts, readers can submit Guest Posts on topics they would like to complain about. Leo Nevoli submitted the below-Guest Post. His complaint involves his recent Hall of Fame selection and subsequent events. He told me it’s an open letter to my readers. He wants to know what you think. Enjoy and without further adieu, here’s Leo…
It is not everyday someone is informed they are receiving an honor and that they get to publicly thank family and friends for all they did to help them be successful. I was informed in the middle of April that I was getting that opportunity. My high school’s Hall of Fame.
When I received the call about officially receiving the award, it came as no surprise to me that I was a unanimous decision to be awarded it. I asked for the information about the banquet that is held each year for the recipients of the award. I was informed that the banquet was scheduled for Father’s Day this year. I was a bit surprised that they would have it on Father’s Day, but when you consider that dad is happy to get a card with some lottery tickets or a case of beer for Father’s Day, while mom wants a full day of breakfast, lunch, and dinner events – you can get away with scheduling something on Father’s Day. I made my family and friends aware of the date in case they were planning something for Father’s Day, and let them know they would be getting invitations to the event. My parents even changed the plans of their vacation to attend the banquet. I turned in my guest list, and began working on my speech.
Things were going good, until I received a message wanting to know if my guest list would change because of the date change of the banquet. Date change? What date change! I talked to the President of the organization. He told me that three of the four recipients were not able to make the Father’s Day Banquet; I was the only one that was able to make that day. After discussing the situation with the other three recipients, the new date worked best for them. I then asked why I was not involved in picking the new date, mainly because I would not have picked that specific day. The new date is during my family’s planned vacation. It is a vacation that my in-laws planned and paid for. They want to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary with their children and grandchildren on a beach. The President told me he did not consider checking the date with me. I told him I could not change my plans, because I do not own the airlines nor a jet. He then said he never had this problem in the previous seven years of the award, and suggested that I have someone receive my award in my absence or do a video acceptance speech. He told me to think about it and get back to him.
I am sure some people are thinking that if I really want this award, I can request they move the banquet up a day, which would delay my vacation by three days, get the award and be on my way – thus leaving us only four days to spend with the in-Laws. Sure that may be the easiest solution, but it is not just me; my wife and kids that are involved in this. It is not fair to my wife’s family if we weren’t there with them. Another option would be for me to stay, receive the award, have the wife and kids go, and either not join the rest of the family on vacation or pay for my own travel to get there (but miss out on three days). Now there is the option of what the President suggested, but to me that is an insult to me and the family and friends I would invite. No one will want to go to a banquet in my honor that I am not there for to listen to me speak by a video tape.
My biggest complaint about the whole thing is not being called to be included with the discussion of a new date. I feel like they do not want me to receive the award. If they wanted me to receive it, they would have included my input for a new date, but they only discussed it with the other three recipients. I firmly believe that all four recipients should be there, because I am sure that (like me) they want to publicly thank loved ones, because this is a once in a lifetime event.
Unless I get a call saying a new date has been decided that works for all four recipients, I currently have a letter addressed to the organization’s President informing him that I will not insult my family and friends with a video tape accepting the award or have someone accept it on my behalf. I also am making him aware that I do not want my name mentioned anywhere in their program or said by any one that night, because I am technically not receiving the award, nor am I going to acknowledge receiving the award. I am also no longer going to contribute to the organization.
Am I in the wrong for feeling like this? Should I not be insulted by their action to not include me in the discussion of a new date? Should I send the letter now, or wait and see if they will try to change the date again? Or, should I just stay home while the family enjoys the sand and sun, just so I can receive this once in a lifetime award? I’m Leo Nevoli, and I want to know your ponderings.