May 19, 2009 by admncc
I was reading a post on a blog called “Giftedly Outspoken” (which you should absolutely check out if you haven’t already done so) and it really hit home with me. The author, Jenny, was discussing her Facebook profile and an example of an issue that came up when she deleted someone from her friends’ list.
The way I view Facebook was similar to what Jenny had outlined. And bear with me if you don’t have a Facebook account, as I’ll keep this easy to follow. Anyway, I use Facebook primarily as a source to reconnect with friends from my past. I’ve often said that I give kudos to Facebook, because it has allowed me to reconnect with people who I might not otherwise have been able to. That’s a good thing. Plus, it’s pretty easy to navigate and talk to people I see all the time as well.
In the grand scheme of things, I’m not into all the hug requests, drink requests, flower requests, sports requests and many of the other optional networking features they offer. That’s just me. If someone sends me one, I might or might not accept it. But I’m mainly on there to communicate.
Here’s how detailed I am. If I see someone that I would like to reconnect with, I’ll e-mail them, catch up a little and then send them a friend’s request. I do that because I’m legitimately interested in knowing what they’re up to, if they have a family now, where they’re living, etc. Or if someone sends me a friend’s request, I’ll typically do the same – send them a message to catch up a little bit first. You might think that’s overly anal and unnecessary, but that’s my thing. Because I don’t want to be the guy who just sends friend’s requests to everyone to build up the number on his profile. That may be the complete opposite from the way that most people think, but I think part of it depends on why you’re on there in the first place. If you’re marketing your business, sure, connect with as many people as you can. If not, you might choose to be more selective.
But nothing irritates me more than someone who just sends me a friend’s request, but then never responds to any messages. Or vice versa, when I send them a request and they accept, but never respond to anything else – which is why I implemented the new process I discussed earlier.
I don’t say this to intimidate people or make anyone feel like they have to respond. I’m just pointing out that I have very little free time as it is, and I want to spend it with people who have a mutual interest in talking…