Can We Be Honest? – Guest Post
April 24, 2009 by admncc
Here at The Constant Complainer, in addition to my own posts, readers can submit Guest Posts on topics they would like to complain about. Leo Nevoli submitted the below-Guest Post. His complaint is the firestorm surrounding the recent Miss USA Pageant and what is being viewed as a controversial answer to a question given by Carrie Prejean, who was Miss California. Enjoy and without further adieu, here’s Leo…
Several years ago, my cousin introduced me to her then boyfriend. After talking to this guy for 15 minutes, I realized he was a major ass, and did not know what my cousin saw in him. After I was done talking with him, my cousin asked me what I thought about the guy because she felt like “he was the one” for her. I gave the politically correct answer of, “I think he is O.K.” I wanted to be honest and tell her she was way too good for this guy, but I did not want to rain on her parade. The two did get married, and after three short years, they got divorced. She then held an “I’m Single Again” party. She and I talked about him that night, and I told her what I thought about telling her years ago. Her reply was, “You are about the tenth family member to tell me this. Why couldn’t you be truthful to me years ago, and I could have avoided my mistake?”
My cousin wanted me to be honest with her years ago, but instead I took the easy way out and gave the answer she wanted to hear, but it got me in trouble with her. I am sure I could have told her the truth back then, only to be told that I am trying to ruin her happiness and she would have hated me for saying that about her man. Who knows she may have listened to me, and she may have avoided this event. Bottom line is I was not honest with her, so I guess in a way I lied to her, even though I grew up being told not to lie. After that night of the party, I have always tried to tell people the truth; even if it was the answer they did not want to hear, much like what Miss California Carrie Prejean did this past Sunday during the Miss USA Pageant.
For those that missed it, Miss Prejean was asked a question about states legalizing gay marriage, by Perez Hilton, an openly gay man. With the crown on the line for her, Miss Prejean fumbled through her answer, by answering it honestly by saying she is against gay marriage. Some judges of the pageant, which consisted of at least 2 gay men and one judge having a sister in a gay marriage; were offended by her answer. I guess they expected her to stand in front of the television cameras and lie to make them happy. One judge has even criticized Miss Prejean by saying she should have known her audience. What if Miss Prejean gave the politically correct answer; the answer the judges wanted her to give? What if her politically correct answer won the crown and in a few months or years it comes out she was against gay marriages. She would have lied when she was asked that question. What would the backlash be to her? Would people be demanding she give up the crown, because she lied to win the crown? Perez Hilton asked a question that he could not handle someone speaking honestly about because her answer was not the same as his opinion. He has since put Miss Prejean down calling her names and making a big deal over her honestly. I guess he wanted her to lie, and if she did she may have won the crown.
I might be one of the few people that are looking at it this way, but I applaud Miss Prejean for being honest, regardless of her answer. It should not matter if you think gay marriage is right or wrong in this situation, you had someone answer a question honestly. Do you think that the other girls answered their questions honestly? That each one gave an answer that they truly believe in? Perez Hilton was a judge in this event, and just because Miss Prejean answered the question honestly should not have affected her score because she did not give the answer he or the other judges wanted. Of course people will say Miss Prejean is insensitive to gay rights, and they can’t have Miss USA being insensitive to people’s rights. In a pageant, you look for someone to represent your organization for the next year, and sometimes people’s views are not that of the pageant organizers.
This world is filled with two-faced people, but let someone be honest, and they get scorned for not giving the answer people want. Miss Prejean’s answer may have cost her the crown, but her honestly may win her more respect from others. Either way, what ever answer Miss Prejean gave that night, it was the wrong answer. I guess in today’s world, honesty is not the best policy, it is better to tell people what they want to hear, because it can lead to a greater reward. I’m Leo Nevoli, and that’s my ponderings.