What’s Up Doc?

April 9, 2009 by admncc

Almost a year ago, I posted a column called “Old School Liability.”  That was probably before most of you started reading this blog.  Feel free to go back and check it out if you’d like.

Anyway, I used it to describe a decision a doctor made that changed my life forever.  I also questioned, now that it was 20 years later, whether or not I should contact that doctor and explain to her how devastating her decision was.  OK, on second thought, maybe it does make sense to have you go back and read that other column.  It was on my mind because I am having a bad week and my leg has been bothering me.  So I was just sitting here reflecting on that whole incident again.  Part of me says that I doubt saying something to the doctor would even make a difference in her life.  But I’m starting to think that it sure as heck might make a difference in mine.  What do you think?

On another note, Christina from The Star Celeb gave me a great idea.  She sent me a copy of a hilarious resignation letter she once gave a former boss.  It was classic!  Along those lines, I thought it would be fun to share some of your worst boss experiences.  Even I have a great one from a previous employer!  So get those stories ready and I’ll post a column in the next few days on it.

And on the “worth noting” side, a lady tried to pick me up at Walgreens this evening.  Yeah, I feel so sexy when picking up trash bags and bottled water.  I mean, I’m happily married and stuff like this is by the far the last thing on my mind.  Not to mention that I’m getting older, more boring and more out of shape by the day.  Meaning – this kind of thing doesn’t happen very often.  LOL.  But this lady was weird and I’m actually embarrassed that she even hit on me.  Although I guess it’s better than the last time it happened – which was in line at Subway.  That’s a story for a different day…

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Comments

  1. I think you should definitely contact the doctor even if the only thing that comes of it is that YOU feel better. You also never know you may just make her realize a thing or two. I say go for it.

  2. Sugar says:

    It wasn’t the 60 year old lady behind the counter that was trying to pick you up CC was it? LOL

  3. Nick Burns says:

    One of my previous employers was a major jerk. Everyone employee at this place knew the jerk was cheating on his wife with one of the supervisors. It was obvious. So naturally I thought he was a creep and hated him. I was a 17 yr old smart ass, as most 17 yr olds are…(I’m an older smart ass now.) Well, one day after making a smart remark towards him, he told me to go outside and sweep the parking lot. He was serious. It was a huge grocery store parking lot and this jerk wanted me to sweep it. Winter had just ended and the snow had melted, so I decided to do the job because it was sunny and relatively nice outside.

    As I was walking around the parking lot pretending to sweep, I started to realize that during the winter this lot must have been used for some major parking lot sex. There were used condoms all over the parking lot. I swept up about ten of them and put them in a little baggie, went inside, and neatly placed them in front of the owner on his desk. I said to him, “That’s disgusting! If I ever have to deal with this again you’ll hear from the family lawyer.” I never got yelled at again.

    I have no idea if my threat meant anything at all, but I just laughed about getting away with putting a baggie of used condoms on his desk.

  4. Nick Burns says:

    Oh….and there is no family lawyer. I was poor.

  5. Sugar says:

    My old boss/store manager used to think that I was her “personal assistant” when my job title was anything but. I was often sent out to pick up anything from hair spray to grocery shopping. One day, she had me go to Burger King to get her lunch. I picked up her order and took it too her. Not 10 seconds after I got back to my office did my phone ring. Apparently BK did not put enough ketchup on her burger. Also, she asked where her side of mustard was. I told her they said they didn’t have mustard packets. She asked me why didn’t I go inside to get some. She wanted me to stop working and go back to BK to get her some mustard. I then let the HR Manager know and from then on I no longer had to get her lunch. Of course she would make a big deal of it whenever I was in earshot, but how ridiculous and lazy!!!

  6. hey, thanks for stopping by my blog.

    aw come on. you got hit on by a creeptown? It’s okay, if unfortunate people find you attractive, its better than no people finding you attractive, right?

    ugh. well i tried.

  7. Kelly says:

    It feels good to be wanted, even if you have no interest! AND they’re freaky! 🙂

  8. Tristan says:

    You can spend your life trying to make right every wrong that happened to you, but it’s a losing battle. Not to make light of this particular one, since a lifelong injury is not something you can shrug off, but it seems like an honest enough mistake. I think because doctors are so overpaid, we expect them to be somehow infallible, but they are just average people and many are not particularly talented.

    I went to school with a lot of crappy engineers. A lot of people are crappy artists or craftsmen. It isn’t malpractice if a doctor is crappy. People get hurt and hopefully a doctor can fix it. We can’t expect anything more than that. I hurt my knee 10 or so years ago and it has never been the same. That’s just part of getting older. Not terribly uplifting advice, but that’s the way I see it. Accept the things you cannot change.

  9. Dan says:

    Man, Tristan, you sure are positive. LOL. Not! But fair points nonetheless.

  10. dani says:

    “Yes, accept the things that you can not change”..this way you can live your entire life saying “what if” ?

  11. Extreme John says:

    Your such a stud CC. I would absolutely urge you to go and see the Doc, if nothing else I think it is important to close out things that are on your mind. The Doctor should know exactly how crappy of a decision that was.

  12. dani says:

    I just wanted to let you know that I put you in my blog roll..sorry for such te long delay 🙂

  13. Jenny says:

    Complainer,

    I think that you should 100% contact your old doctor and tell her exactly what happened to you. Obviously it is too late to sue her and nothing can really come of it other than making her aware.

    I have a similar experience. I was diagonised with myasthenia gravis when I was 13 years old and my neurologist kept me on mestinion. As my syptoms progressed he just increased the dosage. At 13 I was taking 30mg once a day, at 17 I was taking 60mgs 3 times a day AND 180mg before bed. Basically he was masking my problems.

    When I was 17 I went out to the shed to get the Christmas tree stand when suddenly I couldn’t walk anymore. My legs didn’t not want to carry my body no matter how hard I was sending the message. I patted my chest and made my dog jump on me so I could fall on the grass. After 20 minutes of my parents wondering where I had disappeared to they went into the yard and saw me just sitting in the grass crying (I didn’t want to scream for them so that the neighbors would come out)

    My father immediately flipped the hell out and got on the phone at 9pm trying to find a neurologist. I told him to relax and we’d do something the next day. We called our family doctor and he referred us to a children’s hopsital and gave us the name of a neurologist who specialized in children with my disease (very rare for onset at my age)!. We went to see the doctor. His name was Dr. Marks.

    After he examined me for 15 minutes he shook his head and said that if I would have come to him instead of the neurologist I was currently at my life would be different. He would have performed a the surgery that removed my thymus at 13 years old to give me a better chance at a “normal” life. He offered me surgery right away and I declined, my senior prom was in 6 months and I wouldn’t have enough time to recouprate after surgery and go to prom..oh and graduate!!

    I decided to do the surgery after prom and after graduation. In the meantime, my original doctor called me one day to tell me that he had another patient who was 13 years old and had my disease. As someone who dealt with it could I explain to the girl how I handled it and how I lived my life. I said sure and the girl and her parents called me. I spoke to the girl for a while and told her that things aren’t as bad as they seem and told her how to cope. When I spoke to her mother I told her, “If you want your child to live a normal life take her to Dr. Marks, this doctor will only mask her symptoms.” The mom took her kid to Dr. Marks, did surgery at 13 and she lives a symptom free life.

    I did surgery 5 years later cuz I had a loser doctor and I don’t have a symptom free life. I have relapses, I have bad days. I can’t ski, skate, or cheerlead. I get tired and I have days I just hate my life.

    I’m happy to know that I helped at least one kid live a normal life and yes, I did call my old neurologist and told him how he screwed up my life and how he needs to get with the program. Believe me, you WILL feel better.

    Sorry about the novel!

  14. Tristan says:

    Dani, you’re emphasizing my point. The guy’s leg is messed up and it will never be the same again. He already is living his life saying, “what if…?” If he accepts his situation, accepts what he cannot change, then he won’t have to say “what if” anymore.

    Peace comes from within. If you want to hear someone defend a decades old non-decision, if that is what it takes to find peace, then that’s what should be done. If you want an apology, be prepared to not get one, at least nothing more than a trite, empty apology. Personally, that would make me feel worse. I would rather forgive the doctor and move on.

    Jenny, I would suggest that you don’t feel better having told that doctor how he messed up. You’re still blaming him for your condition. Taking your anger out on him didn’t solve anything. He didn’t afflict you with the disease. He didn’t do anything. He is just a crappy doctor.

    It might feel good to speak your mind, but it isn’t going to fix the problem. The only way to do that is to realize that we have to play the hand we’re dealt. It’s no wonder as a society we point the finger every chance we get if we can’t even be ultimately responsible for our own bodies and our own actions.

  15. Jen says:

    If it were me, I would contact the doctor. I don’t know if she has a conscience, but she needs to know what her misdiagnosis has cost you over the years. If nothing else, it will give you some closure, that’s the kind of girl I am, I gotta speak up.

    Now, onward…I used to work at a Greek pizza shop while in college. The owners were married and REALLY Greek, thick accents, lots of yelling, the whole family worked there, etc…

    I used to get trapped in the walk in cooler with the husband all the time, he would follow the girls in and try to get close and talk to you while bumping against you. He was a little, greasy pipsqueak who was super creepy.

    His wife, on the other hand, would yell and scream at the drop of the hat (probably because her little, creepy husband was in the cooler feeling up the help). She would fire everyone at least once a week then call the next morning to yell at us for not showing up for work. She was only joking, she’d say, as she realized she had no one to work the next shift.

    Ahhh, fond memories of cheap minumum wage labor.

    Right on with almost getting picked up by the weird Walgreens lady! Hey, when you’re boring married people like us, you gotta take it where you can get it. Did you walk tall for a few days after? Can’t wait to hear the Subway story.

  16. Jen says:

    Oh, forgot to tell you the Pirate’s home opener is today, I busted my kids out of school to go!

  17. c.princess says:

    Doctors don’t know everything.
    I really want to read about the lady picking you up at Subway.

  18. William Gatherer says:

    I had a client try to pick me up one time… needless to say knowing I have a happy marriage, and the line of business I was working at the time.. that was off the table.

  19. I’m going to have to respectfully disagree with you Tristan. How are we ever going to make things better if we just “accept” the shitty things that have happened to us? To just sit back and “accept” it doing nothing is the chicken shit way out. Often times you have to fight for what is right. At this moment, in my opinion, you seemingly lack compassion.

  20. Tristan says:

    Christina, what exactly are we trying to improve? We already tried to “improve” healthcare by suing the industry to death. With all the money doctors have to spend on insurance now, they are essentially entitled to screw up and will care accordingly when you tell them otherwise.

    It makes sense to inform a doctor if they made an improper diagnosis, but that should not include a guilt trip, and I challenge you to tell me what 20 years of hindsight is going to offer other than guilt and bitterness.

    Which is more cowardly, pointing fingers or taking responsibility? I do have compassion. I have compassion that he got hurt and compassion that the doctor couldn’t fix it, but in my opinion, you shouldn’t do anything if you can’t accept the consequences. Injury is a part of life, as is death. It happens, and just because physicians can usually fix minor injuries doesn’t mean that it is malpractice if they don’t.

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