I Feel Guilty – Guest Post
February 25, 2009 by admncc
Here at The Constant Complainer, in addition to my own posts, readers can submit Guest Posts on topics they would like complaint about. Leo Nevoli submitted the below-Guest Post. His complaint is office etiquette. Whether you have children or not, I’m sure many of you have encountered this situation at work. Enjoy and without further adieu, here’s Leo.
I have been feeling guilty for something I am doing right now. No, I am not cheating on my spouse; it is nothing like that. For those that work in an office and have kids, you may have felt this guilt at one time or another. It happens just before the holidays every year around my office. Right now it is happening to me, and you may be feeling that same guilt as I am having. My child is selling Easter Candy to help raise money for the daycare’s new playground. I would not normally ask my co-workers but since the Wife is employed at the place, I should buy something from this fundraiser and support them.
On the order form and product sheet it clearly states, “We do not promote door to door selling of our products, because your children’s safety is in our best interest.” If I do what the company suggests, then not selling it door to door limits the people my Daughter can sell it to. My Daughter is 3, so having her go door to door is out of the question to begin with, but if we want to sell any of the candy, it will be done by my Wife and I to the people we know or work with. Well, mainly me, since the Wife can’t really sell the candy to her co-workers. I am making an attempt to see if family members want to order some candy, mainly my Parents and relatives that don’t have kids, because I feel guilty about asking the relatives with kids. I don’t want them to feel that they need to buy from me, if they want me to buy from them in the future.
I have had the sales sheet with me at work for a few weeks now, and the order is due tomorrow. I finally got over my guilt and started asking my co-workers today if they want to buy from me. For those that do this, I am wondering if you feel the same guilt as I do. What guilt am I feeling right now? That guilt of if you buy from me, I will have to buy from you in the future. My sales pitch has been to the co-workers with kids that you don’t have to buy from me, because I know these are the local popular candy, and your child maybe selling these for Easter also. I have had a few employees buy from me, and it might be because I have bought a few things from their kids in the past. I don’t know if any of my co-workers are keeping score as to how much I bought from this guy, or how many items I bought from the receptionist? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind helping support a kid’s fund raising sale, but I don’t want to guilt my co-workers in to buying something from me, because I bought from them last year. As much as I keep repeating it to my co-workers that you don’t have to buy from me, I think a few of them bought the cheapest item just because I bought something from them before.
Last year I had a co-worker who came to me with Christmas Wrapping Paper for $20. Should I ask him, even though I did not buy from him? I could not use the wrapping paper. I can only hope that if he buys from me, that next time his kid is selling something, it is something I can use. I want to be fair to all my co-workers, this way they don’t feel guilty about asking me to buy something from them in the future. I also don’t want to feel guilty about buying some junk item from a co-worker because they bought from me this time. Should I also try to ask all my co-workers including our President, and CEO? When I first started here, I saw our CEO go in to a guy’s office and say, “You remember when I bought that candy from your kid last year? My kid is selling this stuff, what do you want to order?” I thought to myself that there is nothing like putting pressure on the guy to buy something now. A few weeks ago my CFO came up to me and said, “You don’t have to buy from me, but if you want Girl Scout Cookies, I have an order form here.” He is my supervisor, so I bought 3 boxes, but I am off the hook with him because this is Easter Candy I am selling and he is Jewish. I don’t mind buying things from my co-workers, but I just feel guilty about making them feel that they have to buy from me, if they want me to buy from them.
Fund raising is a big part of kid’s school life, without it some kids will not have the chance to go on a field trip or get an item for the school that can benefit them. Maybe it is just me, and not wanting to pressure my co-workers in anyway, but I honestly feel guilty about asking them to buy from me; but that is not going to stop me from asking. I’m Leo Nevoli, and if you want to buy any Easter Candy, let me know, quickly!