May 12, 2010 by admncc
Depending on how long you’ve been reading this blog, you’ve probably seen me make the following comment at least once: Some kids truly never have a chance because of their parents. And I mean – never have a chance to succeed. I think that’s a fair and very true comment. Just look around, people watch a little and you’ll be amazed. Almost daily I mutter that comment to myself when I see things happen. Take yesterday for example…
I pulled in to a restaurant’s parking lot and was going to grab lunch, but was on the phone. So I sat in the parking lot finishing my conversation when I saw a woman and her young child leaving the restaurant. The little girl appeared to be about four or five years old. The woman (who I assumed was the mother) had a cup of coffee and some napkins in one hand and was holding the little girl’s hand with her other hand. The little girl jumped down from the curb to the parking lot (while still holding the woman’s hand) and it caused the woman to drop some of the napkins and they blew away. The mother didn’t spill her coffee, but just dropped a few napkins. However, she proceeded to scream at the little girl, verbally demean her and physically hit her (one of the most severe public spankings I’ve ever witnessed). As a parent, stuff like this is gut-wrenching to see, because you want to say or do something, but it’s not your place to do so. We have never spanked our daughter. And I’m not putting you down if you do choose that type of discipline. I’m just saying that there’s a difference between disciplining your child and severely beating them in public over dropping a few napkins on the ground. The mom then shoved the little girl into their van, continued yelling at her, but suddenly stopped when she saw me staring. I wonder why that is? If I were to guess, I’d probably say this isn’t the first time that’s happened.
Some parents just don’t realize how much impact their actions have. Some are so distracted, like the ones who sit through meals in restaurants and text the entire time, while their kids are trying to talk to them. And the others who seem less than interested in what their children did that day or engaging in any activities with them. I’m not a psychologist, but I guarantee that any shrink will tell you that people act as adults based on what occurred to them (or what they saw) as children. Hence my comment about some kids never having a chance. Let’s just hope that the little girl I saw at the restaurant comes out of this OK.